Knowing something about the elements can help explain our
own behaviour, the behaviour of other people and in particular our behaviour in
relation to other people. We do not
exist in isolation. Everything we do
impinges on those around us, as they impinge upon us. The well-worn cliché about raising a finger
here on earth and thereby altering the movement of the most distant star is
just as valid in the purely human sphere of our relationships to one
another. Nothing I do can leave another
close to me untouched, just as they in turn cannot fail to influence me. Often these influences may be too subtle for
us to notice, but they are nonetheless there.
Sometimes, of course, they are so obviously powerful that some
encounters knock us off-balance. We may like
to think that we live our lives cocooned in a bubble of self-sufficiency, but
we all have growing out from us soft antennae, like tendrils, which touch those
passing by us, and these touches shift something in us and change our shape in
small or large ways.
If we are to smooth the path to better understanding and
greater tolerance, we must not forget how different we are from one another,
despite all our many similarities, and, I would say, that we are necessarily
different, for this creates the amazing variety of human thought and behaviour. It is surprisingly difficult to understand
how others view the world. And to those
who differ from us we often react with irritation or perhaps even downright
dislike, since our inability to understand their way of thinking makes us judge
them harshly. We tend to criticize what is
unfamiliar to us, and herein lies the root of so many of our prejudices. If, then, our understanding of the elements
helps us to see where these differences are coming from, then we are well on
the way to engaging in more harmonious interactions with those around us. And,
however basic may initially be our understanding of the elements, even the
tiniest bit of knowledge will contribute to greater tolerance, a quality sadly
much lacking in the world around us, and therefore all the more to be
cherished.
Often without our being aware of this, we gradually build up
our own list of the characteristics by which we have learnt to recognise each
element. These are like our own
aide-mémoires, our short-cuts which lead us to an element. It is worth our while to think a little more
about this, as we often follow along what to us is a well-trodden route towards
an element without being aware we are doing it, and, more importantly, without
checking at intervals to see whether our responses have become stereotyped and
no longer reflect the great diversity with which the elements manifest
themselves. We should always at
intervals do a kind of a stock-take, and discard worn-out clichés about what an
element represents for us which have gone past their sell-by date.
None of the descriptions by which I attempt to define the
elements can be absolutely clear-cut, any more than the distinctions between
one element and another can ever be clearly defined. Like the colours of the rainbow, the elements
meld into one another at their edges, so that they will share, faintly, some of
each other’s characteristics. Though
slight, these similarities can nonetheless confuse us, some more than others,
and explain the difficulties we all have in distinguishing between the
characteristics of different elements.
My own greatest confusion has always come from the differences between
Earth and Fire, and my least from those between Metal and Water, with the
similarities I perceive between other pairings falling somewhere between these
two. Other people will find it difficult
to distinguish between other elements.
Each of us should remain aware of where our own particular
difficulties in differentiating between the elements lie, and use them as
warning signals along the path to a diagnosis.
In particular we need to ask ourselves at intervals whether unconscious
bias for or against an element has crept into our practice, so that without our
realising it the number of patients we diagnose as being of one element seems
to be surprisingly high, whilst that of another element surprisingly low. Are we perhaps tempted to avoid recognizing
the characteristics of elements we find too difficult to deal with in the
practice room, or in life in general?
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